Today is day 5 of the #RuckusMakersChallenge and an 8-day series on how Winos like us connect with the world over a glass of wine…
One of my least favorite phrases ever said is, “it’s business, not personal.” In my old life, someone told me that once. They told me that to attempt to soften the blow of a position change they knew I would perceive as a demotion. Instead, it made me blow up. Because to me, it was all personal. I had spent hours well beyond the “clock” working to make connections with my professional community, working to make a story worth listening to. At that point, I hadn’t even considered the fact there was a “clock” – just that I was committed to the story and building a tribe. Those hours were spent away from my family and my friends and the life I could have otherwise been having. Instead, they were spent at the office or on a flight – usually in front of PowerPoint. It was absolutely personal. And the thing is – I was absolutely ok with that because I cared about that story a lot. I wanted to make that work personal. Until someone told me that it was “business” and not “personal”.
That was just one person in a large community. But at that point, I realized that I could either keep working to convince people that it was personal, or I could choose to surround myself with a community of people who recognize and acknowledge that fact from the start.
I can’t imagine working in a field that is more personal than wine. It is a sensory overload at every point of the process. From wine making to wine tasting. The wine is there to enhance a celebration, to keep us company when we mourn, or more simply – to improve a Monday night. Each bottle of wine has a built-in personal story of a passionate wine-maker, and that story transfers to Winos like us, who create our own stories while connecting with the world around us – often over a glass of wine.